The first weeks get attention. The months after do not, unless someone puts them on the calendar. A short check once a month catches drift before it becomes a problem.
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Pick the same day each month
Choose a day and write it on the calendar. Use the same day every month. The check takes one sitting, not a meeting. Keep the house binder open while you do it.
Check the written plan against what happened
Pull out the routine you agreed to. Compare it with the visit log for the past month. Look for tasks that have disappeared, tasks that were added without a note, and visits that started later than planned. Write each difference down.
Check the contact list
Confirm that every number on the emergency sheet still reaches someone. Confirm who the family calls first when the aide is late and who the office calls second. Update the sheet and note what changed.
Check who owns each job
List the jobs that matter: the visits, the errands, the phone calls, and the house tasks. Next to each one, write whether the agency, the family, or a third party owns it. Ownership drifts when nobody writes it down. A job nobody owns is the one that gets missed.
Check the paper
Ask the office to confirm in writing that the insurance paper on file is still current. Ask whether any staff member named in the plan has changed. Put the answer in the folder.
Decide what changed and what stays
Each month, pick one of three outcomes. Nothing changed, so the plan stands. Something drifted, so you ask the office to fix it in writing. Something needs to change for real, so you bring it to the office as a formal routine change. Do not let drift become the new normal by default.